About Me

Working across cultures, systems and lived experience

Aloha · Suosdey · Hallo

My name is Ankéarâth, Ankea for short.

I was born on a Tuesday in the Netherlands. In the Cambodian language, my name means “Gem on Tuesday,” a reference to the Triple Gem — awareness, community and awakening — values that have quietly guided me long before they became conscious choices.

Growing up across cultures taught me how deeply we are shaped by heritage, relationships and the systems we belong to. My parents’ experience of loss and displacement during the Cambodian genocide, made lineage deeply personal to me.

My father, Sokhon, is a scholar whose education became his path to survival, passing on to me a deep belief in learning and the possibilities it can open. From my mother, Vibolpheap, I inherited a love of creativity and artistic expression that she nurtured in me for as long as I can remember.

I hold deep gratitude for both my father and mother — for all they carried, and above all, for giving my older sister, my younger brother and me life and love. Through them, and through those who came before them, life reached me.

For two decades, I have worked internationally in development, mental health and organizational consulting, supporting individuals and teams across cultures, systems and transitions — stepping into the gift of being a bridge.

Over the past decade and a half, I have also worked in local social non-profits, supporting individuals navigating severe mental health challenges.

Alongside this work, I am an internationally certified advanced practitioner of Systemic Family Constellations and a lifelong student of embodied practices. I integrate constellation principles both in my organizational consulting and in my individual work, where insight arises not through analysis alone, but through awareness, presence and experience.

I believe that creativity is life force energy and it has been central to my life and work — through developing my Intuitive Paint & Pour practice, as well as music, writing, movement, nature-based art and creative exploration.

I have become deeply passionate about integrating constellation work with art and creativity, and I am currently writing a book exploring how creative expression can become a pathway toward healing, insight and transformation.

Today, I offer this work from Hawai‘i and internationally — holding spaces that are thoughtful, grounded and quietly transformative.

I don’t approach this work as teaching or therapy. I walk alongside — continuing to learn, listen and grow, just as the people I work with do.

Training & Background

Academic & Professional

MSc (MS) Social Geography; Social Development Focus — Utrecht University

MA International Development (AMID) — Radboud University / Centre for International Development Issues, Nijmegen (CIDIN)

15+ years in community mental health care in Hawai‘i (CARE, Mental Health Kokua; NPI-registered provider)

8+ years in international development and consulting in Southeast Asia (Oxfam, VSO, Asian Development Bank)

Proficient in five languages

Systemic Constellation Training

IFSC International Advanced Certification Training

International accreditation and advanced training with well-known, first-generation practitioners who trained directly with Bert Hellinger.

In-person facilitation training with Mark Wolynn ("It Didn't Start With You")

Constellation Intensive sessions with Francesca Mason Boring (Constellations & The Creative Process)

Meditation & Somatic Practices

20+ years of Vipassana meditation (100+ days in silent retreat)

Certified Breath of Life Holistic Breathwork Facilitator, Hawaii

Studied with Norman Allen and in-person 200+ hour Ashtanga Yoga Teacher Certification, Paris

A Few Personal Notes

One thing I'm often told is that I have a genuine love of people — being with them, listening and noticing what’s alive beneath the surface. For me, it’s a quiet passion and an honor — a way of being in service to others.

A few things that shape how I live and work

Cooking has always been about love and connection for me. I grew up in a home where food was how care was expressed — my parents insisted on feeding everyone, including my friends, something I found deeply embarrassing as a teenager but deeply meaningful as an adult.
I love rollerskating, and regularly gather with a small group where play and high-intensity movement meet on wheels.
I’m a mother of two — a 15-year-old son and an 12-year-old daughter — who continually teach me about presence, patience and humility.
My husband and I have walked through life’s seasons and challenges together for over two decades, rooted in commitment and ongoing growth. Our relationship continues to be one of my most meaningful spaces for personal development and healing.
I believe Presence is another word for Love—that it lives at the Heart of Life, reminding us that we are far more connected than we often remember.

“Presence is not something we create. It emerges as we reclaim the parts of ourselves that were left behind — and allow them to belong.”

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For organizational and leadership work, I also collaborate with my partner, Caleb Milliken, through our corporate practice.

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Testimonials

"My last constellation session within a group setting, was extraordinarily well led by Ankea. I connected with a part of myself that was trapped and manifested through segments of my disturbing recurring dreams. Ankea called the appropriate support into the space with extremely effectively selected representatives and key elements in my situation. She then masterfully guided them to the desired outcome. For me, this was of the utmost importance and highly effective; she managed to get all the necessary information for me to connect and integrate an important part of myself. I am extremely happy with her work and would definitely recommend her to others with the highest rating in all areas of constellation guidance".

—Tanja, Psychologist, Slovenia

"In my one-to-one session online, I felt deeply comfortable and open from the beginning. The way Ankea held space, fostered a strong sense of trust, professionalism, and safety. I appreciated her calm grounding and gentle guidance throughout, which supported real understanding to emerge without pressure. The approach felt steady, respectful, and effective".

— Keely, Teacher & Facilitator, USA

“After my session with Ankea, I felt a deep softness and tenderness — a sense of coming home to myself. Something opened that felt both vast and centered, as if new horizons appeared while I remained rooted within. Her presence, focus, and embodied strength created a space of love and wisdom that continues to unfold in my life.”

— Snježena, Mother & Entrepreneur, Croatia

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FAQs

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Constellation Work

What is the difference between Constellation Work and Systemic Family Constellations?

(Systemic) Constellation Work is a shortened term for Systemic Family Constellation. It is a method rooted in ancient Zulu tribal wisdom and later introduced to the West by psychotherapist Bert Hellinger. It explores how family history, relationships and inherited patterns continue to shape our lives — often beyond conscious awareness. This work integrates insights from family systems theory, phenomenology and cross-cultural observation.

While the method has evolved over time, the core principle remains: when hidden relational dynamics are acknowledged, systems can naturally reorganize.

How does a session work?

In individual sessions, we use objects, figures, simple markers or visualization to represent people, inner parts, or elements of a system. These representations are placed in relation to one another, allowing patterns to become visible — often without needing to analyze or explain them intellectually.

Information arises through:

Spatial relationships

Bodily sensations

Emotional responses

Shifts in perception

The process unfolds slowly and respectfully, guided by what shows itself rather than by interpretation or diagnosis.

How is this different from coaching or traditional therapy?

Constellation work is not coaching, and it is not talk therapy.

Coaching primarily works with goals, mindset, and conscious behavior.

Traditional therapy often focuses on narrative, history, and processing.

Constellation work engages the unconscious and relational field, where many patterns originate. Because it does not rely solely on insight or effort, changes can sometimes occur more quickly — though outcomes are never forced or guaranteed.

Why can constellation work feel impactful even in a short time?

Much of our behavior is guided by unconscious patterns shaped by family history, early attachment, and even epigenetic inheritance — the way experiences are passed across generations through biology and relational imprinting.

By bringing awareness to these deeper layers, constellation work can create shifts without needing to “fix” or analyze the problem extensively.

How long does a session last?

An assessment session takes up to one hour. An individual constellation session can last 2-3 hours, allowing time to arrive, explore and integrate what emerges.

Do I need prior experience or preparation?

No prior experience is needed. You do not need prior knowledge of constellation work — a quiet sense that something wants attention, along with openness to explore it, is enough. We begin with on orientation session to find out what type of work would be most supportive for you right now.

What is the investment for Individual Constellation sessions?

Orientation Session — $75 (up to 1 hour)

A first conversation to explore what is bringing you, clarify your intention, and sense whether this work may be supportive at this time.

Constellation Session — $150 (up to 2 hours)

A one-on-one systemic constellation session exploring relational, family, or ancestral dynamics that may be shaping current patterns.

Integration Session — $100 (1 hour)

A follow-up session supporting the integration of insights through reflection, somatic awareness, or creative practices in combination with constellation work.

3-Session Foundation Journey — $300
(Orientation + Constellation + Integration)

A guided arc for those who are new to this work or feel called to move through a complete process — beginning with intention setting, moving into a full constellation, and followed by integration.

What is the investment for Group Constellation Gatherings?

Constellation work can also be experienced in a group setting, either online or in person. Participants may join as a focus client (receiving a constellation) or as a representative.

In-Person Constellation Circle (Kailua-Kona)
Focus Client: $150
Representative: $25

Online Constellation Circle
Focus Client: $150 (sliding scale options available)
Representative / Observer: Free

Space for focus clients is limited and reserved in advance.

Is this therapy or covered by insurance?

No. This work is not traditional psychotherapy and insurance is not accepted. All services are self-pay and experiential.

What is your cancellation policy?

Because sessions are reserved and prepared in advance, 24–48 hours’ notice is requested for cancellations or rescheduling. Late cancellations may be charged in full, except in cases of emergency.

How do I know if this work is right for me?

If you’re unsure, an initial assessment session can help clarify whether constellation work — and which approach — is appropriate for you at this time.

You’re also welcome to reach out with questions before booking or join the monthly online circle to learn more about this work with others.

FAQs

Find answers to commonly asked questions for Intuitive Paint & Pour

How is Intuitive Paint & Pour related to constellation work?

Paint & Pour and constellation work arise from the same intention: creating a spacious, relational field where something can be seen, felt, or expressed without force.

While constellation work engages systemic and relational dynamics more explicitly, Paint & Pour offers a gentler, creative pathway. Through painting, movement and shared presence, people often access sensation, emotion, and insight in ways that don’t rely on analysis or explanation.

For some, Paint & Pour stands fully on its own as a nourishing creative and relational experience. At other times, I offer individual Paint & Pour sessions that weave constellation work directly into the process, or creative integration following a constellation, for those who feel drawn to continue exploring or settling what emerged.

Neither practice is required for the other. They are simply different doorways into presence, reflection, and connection.

Who is this for?

Paint & Pour is for people who want to create something meaningful together — whether to celebrate a birthday or special moment, mark a transition, or explore something that’s quietly asking for attention.

Some come simply to share a creative, connective experience with friends. Others are drawn to the work as a gentle, embodied entry point into deeper reflection or constellation work. Many arrive somewhere in between.

No art experience or prior familiarity with constellation work is needed. The work meets people where they are, and each format is shaped to suit the intention and setting.

Do I need to know how to paint?

No experience is needed at all. Some individuals arrive thinking they “aren’t creative” and leave surprised by how nourishing and enjoyable the process feels. You’ll be gently guided, without pressure or expectations.

What are the pricing options and ways of working together?

Paint & Pour is offered in several formats, depending on the level of depth, structure and setting that best supports you.

In-person hosted gatherings

$35 per person (participants bring their own materials)

$45 per person (materials included)

Online gatherings

$25 per person

In-person luxury destination gatherings

$75–$95 per person, depending on location, group size and format

All materials, the setting and pūpūs are included

Individual Paint & Pour Constellation
A private, one-on-one session weaving intuitive painting and constellation work into a single, integrated process.

$150